What would help right now?
Start with the need that feels closest.
Talk it through
Start with what feels tangled. You do not need to know the answer yet.
Set a boundary
Get clear on what needs to change and what you need to hold.
Repair after conflict
Find a way back in after a conversation that did not land.
Practice the conversation
Try it before you have to be inside the real moment.
Bring them into it
Open a shared space when talking separately is not enough.
Talk about what happened
Come back after the real conversation and work from what actually happened.