Say what happened, what you are carrying, or the part you cannot quite name yet.
Your agent helps separate the reaction, the pattern, the fear, and what you actually want.
Words are one option. You can also practice, bring someone in, wait, decide, or stop for now.
Stay with the situation until the part that matters becomes easier to see.
When it helps to stop talking around each other, move into a shared space.
Feel the pressure of the conversation before you have to be inside the real one.
Bring the situation. Parlable will help you work out what it means and what you want to do next.